The aura is an energy field that surrounds a person and every other object in this world. The aura is believed to be the manifestation of the person’s physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health. This means that the person’s aura is composed of several strands of energy that are released by major chakras (energy centers) of the body.

The believers of the paranormal insist that such energies can be controlled. Weak or sick auric energy can be healed. Auric energy can be expanded to several feet beyond the person’s body. And those who have their third eye opened can see auric energy. For the average photographer, the only way to see these auras is through an aura camera. The energies that composed the aura can be distinguished only by their colors.

The major auric colors

The same theory holds good in case of human weight; more you feel good and hale, the more will be the care towards your physical well being. A regular aromatherapy session may help you achieve weight loss campaign, by increasing your sense of well-being and relaxation.

However, aromatherapy cannot produce desired weight loss without you creating your own calorie deficit regime, either by eating a calorie-reduced weight loss diet, or by increasing calories burned through rigorous exercise, or more ideally by a combination of diet and exercise. Aromatherapy has proven to be very useful for this weight loss. This natural way of treating has no side effect at all as compared to other treatments.

Certain essential oils are very useful in weight loss trial, like Birch, Grapefruit, Juniper, Lemon, Orange, Tangerine, and Fennel. Massage is probably the best method and oils must be used with base oils like sweet almond, which makes oil less strong and easy to use. Applying oil to those places were fatty tissues are more, will really help to reduce the fat level and make your physique well shaped.

Essential oils used here are not only sweet smelling but have also the capacity to make your digestive system good, that in turn also helps in weight reduction. How ever, one must see that the oils used should be in moderate amount and mixed with carrier oil before using. A calculated dosage, rigorous exercise-workout and a strict diet will go a long way in achieving a significant weight loss.

Various forms of aromatherapy compounds have been concocted for use in alleviating pain and emotional stress. Although aromatherapy should not be considered a miracle cure for serious emotional issues, the use of essential oils may assist, sometimes greatly, with particular emotional issues.
Additionally, the proper use of essential oils and balms may enhance your emotional demeanor and provide support and help balance your erratic emotions during the day. The use of essential oils for emotional well-being (or stress) is what is often first visualized of when you think of the term “aromatherapy.”

Essential oils are comprised of naturally occurring chemicals (derived as herbal factors), that work in synergy and harmony with one another. Because essential oils evaporate quickly due to its instability (“volatile”), their molecules are easily inhaled. The inhalation of these naturally occurring synergistic chemicals provides triggers to our brain, which effect our emotions.

Inhalation of these invisible molecules also provides physical benefit which may also work together to aid in our emotional state. It seems that the whole mechanism as an act of mystery and surrealism; its mysterious action still defies our wisdom.

Many oils are soothing for human nerves and one good example is Orange. The smell of orange helps provide emotional balance and bring on a positive self esteem. Sweet orange oil is a wonderful oil to use alone or in a blend for those bouts of winter blues that often occur in the colder, eerie times of the year.

The aroma and the scent of sweet orange oil also blend nicely with many oils and have the added advantage of being one of the cheaper essential oils. It is also generally regarded to be one of the safer essential oils to use.

There is word of caution too! Not all oils provide the same level of benefit for all persons. It means the beneficial effects may not be of the same degree to a particular person.  Past memories associated with particular aromas can have a positive or negative effect.

This is true for many people. Rose essential oil, for instance, is known for aiding during times of grief and sorry. It implies your past experiences with the aroma of rose oil, however, may impact its effectiveness for use during times of present grief.  Do not force yourself to use oil that elicits negative feelings or that you don’t like the aroma of particular oil.

It is important, therefore, that you treat any list of essential oils used for emotional well-being as a basic starting point. Within the realms of safety and experiment, utilize those oils that bring about the purpose that you seek. Aromatic oils can bring solace to your stressful life; using it with a bit of caution and intelligence can help you come out of those bitter moments.

There are many advantages to using natural skin care products, because synthetic chemicals which are added to top brand skin care products is not what you want to absorb through your skin. You will be looking for all those things herbal to tone up your skin just because you do not want all those harmful chemical substances to harm and spoil your skin. Ultimately, you will decide to use one of those exotic aromatherapy recipes for maintaining your skin.
Though, inhaling the fragrant aromas of essential oils is just one way to enjoy aromatherapy, another innovative application is applying essential oils to the skin in the form of properly formulated preparations, massage oils, mineral baths and sprays.  The molecular structure of essential oils makes them readily absorbed in the protective oily layer of the skin, where they are quickly absorbed.

Aromatherapy skincare is a safe, effective way for the body to acquire the beneficial properties of essential oils.

Acne Medication: 8 drop tea tree + 6 drops bergamot + 4 drops lavender: 0.75 oz of jojoba oil. Apply to face every evening, massaging around the pimple. Mix recipe with cream for daytime use (never go into sun while using). Add a few drops of carrot oil to the mixture.

Dry Skin Wash: 10 drops sandalwood oil + 10 drops bois de rose oil +10 drops lavender oil: 2 tablespoons of avocado.

Hair Treatment: 2 drops rosemary oil + 1 drop lavender oil + 1 drop bay oil: 20 ml olive oil. Use as scalp massage or apply to hair

Problem Skin Wash: 10 drop myrrh oil + 10 drops Palma Rosa oil +10 d frankincense oil: 1 tablespoon of Borage and 1 tablespoon of flaxseed.

Reviving Face Mask: 2 drops petit grain oil + 2 drops lemon oil + 2 drops ylang ylang oil: 20 ml of iced water. Mix with enough crushed almonds to make a paste. Apply as a face mask. Let dry, then rinse off.

Sun care Blend: 14 drops lavender oil +1 drops peppermint oil: 4-8 oz. of cold water. Use in an atomizer on sunny days, spiriting yourself as needed.

Dry Skin: Your skin produces a protective emollient substance known as sebum. People whose skin doesn’t produce enough sebum often sport dry, itchy and flaking skin. How ever, certain essential oils can help you. The tenacious, low volatility  oils like patchouli and sandalwood, as well as heavily scented oils like rose and ylang ylang are especially well suited for dry skin preparations.

Moisturizing Cream:
4 fl. oz. almond oil
3 fl. oz. rosewater
1/2 oz. beeswax
10 drops rose
5 drops lavender
4 drops bergamot
8 drops patchouli
8 drops sandalwood

Melt the wax and the almond oil in a double boiler. Reduce the heat and add the rosewater gradually in a thin stream, while vigorously agitating the mixture. As soon as the water is incorporated take off heat. When the mixture cools and turns creamy, add the essential oils.

Oily Skin: Conversely, overactive sebaceous glands result in oily skin. People with oily skin need a regular cleansing exercise to take off excess oil and prevent clogged pores. This recipe for a facial mask uses the natural capacity of essential oils to help dissolve excess oil.

Oily Skin Facial Mask:

Mix 3 tablespoons of white corn meal and almond meal (freshly ground raw almonds are better), add the following essential oils:
10 drops lavender
5 drops bergamot
3 drops of clary sage

Add enough rosewater or orange flower water to make a wet paste. Using circular motions gently massage the mixture onto your face, avoiding the soft tissues under the eyes. Leave the mixture on for 15 minutes, and then rinse off with warm water. Finish the treatment by splashing cold water on your face to close your pores.

Normal Skin: Normal, healthy skin can benefit from a toning/balancing facial mist.

Toning Facial Mist:

Add the following essential oils to 2 fluid ounces of distilled water:
6 drops lavender
1 drop clary sage
1 drop chamomile
4 drops lemon

Pour into a spray bottle. Essential oils and water will separate, so shake the bottle vigorously before spraying this refreshing blend onto clean skin.
Sunburn: Your sunburned skin will benefit from a soothing, fragrant mist of distilled water and lavender oil. Adding a few drops of peppermint and spearmint oil contributes a cooling effect.

Sunburn Mist:

Add the following oils to 2 fluid ounces of distilled water.
9 drops of lavender
2 drops of peppermint
1 drop of spearmint

Mist lightly over sunburned skin.
Aromatherapy skincare is a wonderful way to experience the immense benefits of essential oils; it works its way deeply into the skin, affecting the entire constitution. The aromas associated with this action work their fragrant magic on the whole human body.

To help you know, below are listed a few ways in which you can get started as a beginner. However, these methods should be understood as guidelines only, and you will need to understand the precise purpose and pay special attention to all safety pre cautions that are attached to the oil chosen for use. It is also important to remember that essential oils are highly flammable. Never allow the vials and bottles of these oils to fall in the hands of your children.
Some of the most common uses of Aromatic oils and other substances are:

As an easy inhalation medication – These oils are used as relaxant to remove the nasal blockage caused due to common cold and allergy. Place 3-4 drops of essential oil on a clean tissue. Place the tissue near your nose and inhale. If you are a first timer, use only one drop to ensure that you do not have a sensitivity or reaction to the oil. Some people are allergic to aromatic oils.

As steam inhalation drops – Common cold and flu can be cured by this method. Initially boil 2 cups of water. Pour the water into a bowl and add 3-7 drops of your oil to the water. Use fewer drops if you are using oil that may cause irritation to your mucous membranes (i.e. cinnamon, eucalyptus, rosemary, pine, thyme, cajuput, etc.).
Place your nose about 12″ away from the bowl and inhale deeply. Never inhale the steam constantly and if you notice any adverse reaction, stop immediately. Use of energizing or relaxing oils can also make this method useful any time of day or night.

As room freshener – You can sue aromatic oils to freshen up rooms; a few drops in to a diffuser will help spread the magnificent aroma of these oils.  You can sue any of the exotic aromatic oils like Jasmine, Lavender or Rose oil.

As a general household freshener – Add a few drops of your favorite oil to your trash can, laundry wash, drain, vacuum bag filter, or on a tissue for placement in your drawers.

As a bug repellent – Tired of those bugs and insects? Then try one of those great oils. Many essential oils including citronella, lavender, and peppermint act as a natural repellent against insects and bugs. Sprinkle a few drops of essential oil onto tissues or cotton balls and place near your doorways and windows to help repel insects. Be cautious when using these oils, as some oils may not be suitable for use around pets. Be careful not to apply the essential oil directly onto fragile surfaces.

For massage purposes – Aromatic oils are known all over the world for their massaging properties. The art of massaging is never complete with your favorite oil. Add up to 20 drops of essential oil to 1 ounce carrier oil such as sweet almond oil and massage onto yourself or partner. Keep away from eyes and genital areas. Do not apply essential oils to the skin without first diluting them. Read all safety instructions.

For bathing – Some oils make an excellent bathing and relaxing drops. Add 5-7 drops essential oil to 1 ounce carrier oil. Add this blend to your running bath water and mix well before getting into the tub. Be sure to read the safety data for the essential oils you choose to use. Feel the exotic freshness and amazing scent emanating all around you!

Other Uses- Essential oils can be used in making homemade lotions, facial toners, shampoos, perfumes, soaps, shower gels, and other natural products. Additionally, essential oils are often blended for their therapeutic synergistic abilities.

For an aromatherapy pregnancy bath, add 6-10 drops of essential oil to the tub and mix well before getting in to the tub. 3-6 drops essential oil in a bowl of warm water wrung out in a washcloth works well for a compress. Use the same dilution in a bowl of steaming hot water for a steam inhalation. An aromatic bath is supposed to provide relaxation to the taut pelvic muscles and aid in avoiding stretch marks.

How ever, there are many essential oils that need to be avoided during pregnancy. The following list contains oils that should be avoided during pregnancy and oils that are recommended for use during pregnancy.

Oils To Avoid During Pregnancy

Use of essential oils should be extremely limited or avoided during the first trimester of pregnancy, but has many wonderful uses in the last two trimesters and especially during labor.

Oils to avoid during pregnancy include:

Basil, Cedar Wood, Cinnamon, Clary sage (during labor), Clove, Cypress (after 5 months), Fennel, Hyssop, Jasmine (during labor), Juniper, Lemongrass, Myrrh, Parsley and Pennyroyal

Oils Recommended During Pregnancy

The following oils will be comfortable for using during pregnancy. As always, use caution if you have allergies or a family history of allergies. If you feel you may be allergic to oil, do a patch test first. Good oils for pregnancy include:

Bergamot, Chamomile, Cypress (after 5 mos.), Eucalyptus, Frankincense, Geranium (avoid in early pregnancy), Grapefruit, Lavender. Lemon, Mandarin, Neroli, Patchouli, Petitgrain, Rosewood, Sandalwood and Tangerine

If you are currently pregnant and have been using any of the essential oils that need to be avoided, but are not experiencing any bleeding or cramping, then there most likely is nothing wrong. However, it is strongly encouraged you to consult your doctor or midwife and discontinue use of the “to be avoided” essential oils.

Aromatherapy Benefits for Pregnancy

Listed below are some of the benefits and therapeutic effects of the essential oils recommended for use during pregnancy:

• Bergamot:    Analgesic, antiseptic, antidepressant, uplifting, and refreshing. Helpful for cystitis during pregnancy.
• Chamomile:    Antiseptic, analgesic, anti-inflammatory and antispasmodic. Soothes pain from muscular aches, headaches, toothaches and Indigestion.
• Cypress (ok after 5 mos.):    Antiseptic, antispasmodic, astringent and diuretic. Helpful for Varicose veins, hemorrhoids and swollen ankles.
• Eucalyptus:    Antiseptic, antibiotic, analgesic, anti-inflammatory, antiviral. Helpful with respiratory congestion.
• Frankincense:    Antiseptic, astringent, sedative, warming
• Geranium (ok after 3 mos.):    Antiseptic, antidepressant, astringent, refreshing, uplifting. Eases aching legs and is good for poor circulation.
• Grapefruit:    Astringent, digestive aid, lymphatic stimulant. Helps with Water retention.
• Lavender:    Antiseptic, antibiotic, analgesic, antidepressant, healing, Relaxing. Helps soothe aches and pains of pregnancy, encourages cell renewal and helps with fluid retention.
• Lemon:    Antiseptic, antibacterial, antifungal, astringent, stimulant, Tonic. Useful as an inhalant for morning sickness and in Massage for varicose veins.
• Mandarin:    Antiseptic, refreshing, tonic, mild relaxant. Can ease fluid retention in leg and ankle massages.
• Neroli:    Antiseptic, antidepressant, antispasmodic, anti-inflammatory, Relaxing. Useful in pregnancy to promote healthy skin cell Regeneration and for easing nervous tension.
• Patchouli:    Antiseptic, antidepressant, anti-inflammatory, nerve sedative. Eases confusion, indecision and apathy.
• Petitgrain:    Antiseptic, antidepressant, sedative, refreshing, tonic. Helpful in dealing with pre or postpartum depression.
• Rosewood:    Antiseptic, sedative
• Sandalwood:    Antiseptic, anti-inflammatory, antidepressant, sedative. Helpful for cystitis during pregnancy.
• Tangerine:    Antispasmodic, lymphatic stimulant, calming, sedative. Helps to prevent stretch marks.
• Tea Tree:    Antibiotic, antiseptic, antifungal, antiviral, disinfectant. Can be used to treat thrush during pregnancy.
• Ylang Ylang:    Antiseptic, antidepressant, aphrodisiac, sedative, lowers blood Pressure. Restorative when overworked or tense.

How to choose baby gender is a program, by following which you can conceive baby of your choice i.e. you can choose the sex of your baby. This method makes baby gender selection possible naturally. It makes you understand the key concepts how your baby is conceived and what factors decide the sex of your baby. So it is quite possible that you could decide yourself which baby you want? A girl or a boy.
How is choosing baby gender possible?

Read this to understand how to choose baby gender is possible and how you can make it work?

Step #1: What is your pH level? Acidic OR Alkaline?

Did you know that…

• ALKALINITY favors the conception of a baby BOY
• ACIDITY favors the conception of a baby GIRL

This is an important gender selection factor that most people are not aware of. This simple scientific theory was a part of both our high school’s biology and chemistry classes… (We were probably day dreaming back then and we forgot all about it!)

Still, scientific researches have demonstrated that the woman’s tract acidity level will definitely have a direct impact on the gender of the baby she will conceive.
WHY? Back to high school for a moment…

The woman’s reproductive tract includes:

• The vagina
• The ovaries
• The fallopian tubes
• The cervix

The man carries 2 types of sperm:

• The X-chromosome sperm (GIRL)
• The Y-chromosome sperm (BOY)

X-sperm (GIRL) are: bigger – slower – more resilient in the woman’s tract.

Y-sperm (BOY) are: smaller – faster – weak – less resilient in the tract.

The mother-to-be internal environment (tract) could be too acidic or too alkaline and simply “kill” the “Y” sperm (BOY) or the “X” sperm (GIRL).

Remember that the male Y-sperm are weaker. A highly acidic tract is a harsher environment for them to survive in. Once they’ve been eliminated by acidity, the only ones left to reach the ovum are the X-sperm, producing a baby girl.

On the other hand, if the woman’s tract is highly alkaline, it will act as a booster on the “Y” sperm (male) in addition to the fact that they already
are faster and will easily beat the “X” sperm (female) in their run to the
ovum (egg).

So quite simply, the *optimal* pH acidity level of your reproductive tract
will most definitely make ALL the difference in the process of selecting your baby’s gender.

No matter which gender selection method you intend to use and even if you strictly follow the rules, you could still fail at conceiving the desired gender
if you are either too acidic or too alkaline.

The FIRST STEP you definitely must go through before you can even dream about selecting your baby’s gender is to make sure that you have the optimal and appropriate pH level.

This is a pure and simple theory backed by scientific evidence. There is no way around it!

It is very easy to find out what is your reproductive tract’s pH level.
You have to test your urine or saliva for 5 days in-a-row using pH level
test strips. It’s so easy to test your pH level that a child could do it!

Your very *first* step towards baby gender selection success is your pH level. Years of scientific researches and evidences can’t be wrong!

After that second step is to adjust the pH level if it’s not in the desired range and to have intercourse on the “Crucial Dates” each month.

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If so, this article is for you and will help you last longer in bed and achieve greater pleasure for both you and your partner.

The major point to keep in mind with sex is that it is an intense emotional and physical experience and to achieve great sex your mind and body need to work together.

1. Relax

If you feel under pressure to perform, anxiety will definitely affect your performance and you will end up trying to hard and will fail to achieve satisfaction for both you and your partner.

Not being relaxed is a total passion killer.

For good sex and lasting longer in bed, you need to be totally relaxed, free your mind and concentrate only on the sexual act.

2. Go Slowly

The number one way to last longer in bed is simply to go slower.

Not only will this help you relax, it will make your body and your partners more responsive to touch.

Take it all slowly (not just the sex act) but also all the foreplay that precedes the act of sex.

This will help relax and connect you to your partner and let sexual energy flow free.

3. Deepen your breathing.

Breathing correctly is a great way to connect ourselves with our bodies (this has been used for centuries in Eastern society) and to relax and achieve connection between mind, body and soul and you should use it to.

Try deep slow breathing in rhythm with your partner’s breathing. This simple tip will give huge pleasure to both of you.

4. The whole experience is important

Sex is not about simply achieving orgasm. It is about the whole experience and all the pleasure that precedes the final ending.

The most important element of sex is the overall experience not just achieving orgasm.

Sex gives us pleasure in numerous ways and our bodies simply love the whole experience.

5. Communicate With Your Partner

Don’t be afraid to ask your partner what she likes and you should do the same with her.

Keep in mind all people are different. we have certain acts that turn us on and turn us off, so it’s important to know what gives each of you pleasure.

Every time you have sex you should try new and different things and improve on the things you have learned.

Many partners never satisfy themselves or their partners. This is simply down to a lack of communication.

6. Guilt

If for any reason you attach shame or guilt to sex, you will not feel relaxed and will not achieve satisfaction.

Sex is one of the great gifts to you and everyone and should be enjoyed.

Focus only on the positive aspects (and there are many) and you will achieve love and satisfaction.

7. Feelings From Within

Sex is both a physical and emotional experience and you need to feel both.

Let your consciousness move from your mind to your body and focus on feeling your sexual energy coming from within your being.

You will then are focused purely on sexual union and the pleasure and free your mind from all other thoughts.

8. Good Sex Can take Time

There is a lot to learn about sex the best positions, foreplay etc and we have covered them in our other articles (sorry not enough room here!) but to conclude you can learn a lot about your body and your partners and this will enhance your sex life.

Good sex can take time and all men are capable of lasting longer in bed.

Sure, you may need a bit of practice and some time to achieve satisfaction with your partner, but the practice will be fun!

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This is where the phenomenon of mimicry comes in. Blind mimicry is distortion of fashion. There is always en extent to which one can and should follow the trends. At a certain point, your personality gives way. Do not miss out on that. This what really makes you look special and unique. It is especially painful to see fuller women squeeze into clothes that they bulge out of in order to look thinner. It is also uncomfortable to look at middle aged women trying to emulate fifteen year old anorexic models. No matter how thin your waist is, you will never be able to mask wrinkles and slight bodily deformities caused by age. What is left to do? Be yourself.

In all cases, it is important to wear clothes that would not make you look too young or too thin and which would make you feel relaxed, unrestrained and confident. How do you look for such clothes? First you have to deal with yourself. Ask yourself who you are, what your character is like. Are you open? Do you like change? Are you active, or, on the contrary, not so? What is your occupation like?

When you see a woman wearing an eccentric red dress in the middle of the day, with the hair dyed red, you probably think that she has a mild psychological problem – lacking in balance, maybe a bit hysterical. And here is a middle aged woman (maybe a little on the big side, but it only adds to her femininity). She is wearing a free style dress made of natural material that does not get in her way. One would say classical style with elements of contemporary fashion. She looks original, move freely, and confidently. She is obviously enjoying herself, does not worry about taking her tummy in to conceal a recent meal or to avoid discomfort of an overly tight dress. This woman emanates harmony and tranquility. People usually like women like that and admire them. It has always been true that the best looking and most fashionable people are those in harmony with themselves and others. These are people who look after their bodies, but also their minds. Making sure that stress does not rule you over plays an important role. Forgetting and forgiving other people frees you from additional, unnecessary stress and saves your precious face from one more age mark. A daily walk in the forest or down the nearest toe path after work will not only fill your lungs with oxygen and air your head, but relax your body and mind and put a smile as well as a tranquil look on your face. Do not underestimate psychological wellbeing; it is a huge part of your good looks. Every bad thought results in an unpleasant feeling and consequently leads to bad behavior, which probably puts a new wrinkle on your face. People, who do not love themselves, do not love others.

Thus, in order to be loved and look good you have to be yourself, cherish what is beautiful in you not forgetting that you are already unique and you just have to let it show. Be natural in life, always work on your inner self and be better inside. The inner beauty shines through and on to your body. The only thing you have left to do then is give it an elegant and cozy touch with your stylish and characteristic clothes. If you feel comfortable and confident, people around you will feel this way too. You will always be not only fashionable but loving and loved too.

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What’s the opposite of acceptance? Rejection. And that’s what we’re afraid of.

I’m going to give you some powerful techniques to eradicate this fear’s hold on your life, but before that, I want to discuss the root of this in depth for you.

We’re going to call a girl or group not being interested as something other than rejection or getting rejected. After all, you didn’t get rejected. Your approach did. If you went in differently, the reaction would have been different. We’re going to call it getting blown out or a blow-out. This is because while the set didn’t know enough about you to reject you personally, they did express that they wanted to end the interaction.

Your use of words is very important. A good friend of mine is fond of saying, The first set of the night is always murder. Now if you’re equating talking to a girl with someone ending your life, of course you will be more than a little hesitant to make that first approach! Anthony Robbins has set up a whole system on how to use your word choice to better your life. I won’t get into it here, but in short, minimize your negative word usage, especially if you’re describing something that’s necessary for you. If you say Going to the gym is a royal pain in the ass, you probably won’t make it there very often. However, if you say Getting to the gym consistently is a challenge, it’s a lot more likely you’ll rise to the occasion. So to sum up, I NEVER want to hear you say I got rejected.

While word choice is important, a bigger issue that holds the outcome of the set. In other words, you are giving two girls thirty seconds to give a full evaluation of your value as a person and judge you accordingly. That’s a lot of power to give someone you’ve never met before.

There’s only three reasons an approach might not go well for me:

1) My game wasn’t good enough at this point to handle this particular situation

2) My game was good enough, but I made a mistake in this particular situation

3) There were extenuating circumstances that prevented success, despite that I ran a good set.

That’s it. There are no possibilities for why it can go wrong.

In my years in the game, I’ve met plenty of people that make their living teaching men how to pick-up women. These men pick-up beautiful women right in front of their students, sometimes on video-tape. Some of these guys, if you saw them, would blow your mind because they are not attractive by any standards. They have huge guts, often are balding, sometimes pasty white, and sometimes pretty short and frail. This is a hard thing to accept until you’re actually seen this, but you definitely do not need to be good looking to attract women. The point I’m trying to make is:

YOUR LOOKS ARE NOT WHAT GETS YOU BLOWN OUT.

Your game is the problem; not your looks, not your value. It’s completely dependent on your social skill-set.

When Tyler Durden makes an approach that doesn’t go well (which does happen even for the masters), he says it affects him as emotionally as if he was shooting hoops and had his hand crooked on the basketball and missed.

So you have basically three options to consider. You may have been socially miscalibrated and messed up a set you could have done well. So you learn from your mistake. It also might have been a too difficult set for you to win at this point in your learning curve. You still get mad props for going for it and you are no doubt better because you did go for it. The people that get great at pick-up constantly approach sets out of their comfort zones, where instant success is unlikely. It might be a go-go dancer swinging around a pole. It may be a beautiful girl surrounded by 7 guys. It may be a celebrity. When you’re higher in your learning curve, you’ll be able to own that set.

Until then, it’s only practice.

A great PUA named Hoobie once said that Every failure is a brick in my palace. I would change that to Every approach is a brick in my palace. The latter is more accurate, because every attempt you make at a pickup, it adds to your cumulative experience.

And of course there are situations where the set-up is precarious at best and it is near impossible to actually win the set. If a group of girls are having a girl’s night out for a friend who’s husband just cheated on her, they’re going to be giving her 100% of their attention and putting guys to the side for the night. There’s no way you would ever know that, so just be open to the possibility. This is not to say you should excuse yourself every time a set doesn’t go well. You can’t always say She must have been married. You still have personal accountability. Just let the possibility that it was an impossible set be open in the back of your mind.

Now here are some specific techniques for consistently getting approaches done each night:

? Make it a MUST that you approach a minimum of 6 sets for the night. That you literally can’t leave til you do it. Make it your goal to get blown out 6 times. Yes, no numbers, no lays, just get blown out. That way when you get blown out you’re closer to your goal.

? If you have a wing, give him 100 dollars. Have him give you 10 dollars back for each approach you do. At the end of the night, he keeps the leftover cash.

? Make it a point to say some outrageous stuff in approaches, stuff you KNOW won’t work. Every third approach or so, I will sometimes use a fun approach that I don’t’ expect to work like going up to a group of girls and saying Are you ready for the big time?

? A good exercise from Ross Jeffries is to go to a place like a shopping mall or busy street downtown and stop a girl and say Excuse me, forgive the interruption. I’m Manny Martian. What is your favorite flavored bowling ball? Now that’s not a pickup attempt, because you were not trying to seduce her. Go do that about 20 times and it should be easier. It may be better to do that one in a major city an hour or so away from where you live for that one.

You have to go BEYOND what a typical approach is before you feel comfortable with a normal approach. Once you say something ridiculous and realize you’re still alive and breathing afterwards, you can laugh it off and it’s a heck of a lot easier to ask a couple women what their opinion is on something.

* FOR NEWBIES ONLY: When you approach, touch the girls before you start talking. Like tap a shoulder. That instigates the point of no return signal that let’s you know you’re already in the interaction. When you see a set, go 3-2-1, TAP, and then they’re looking at you and you have to speak. After doing this for a few weeks though, quickly phase it out since it is NOT solid game for a proper pickup.

* Practice seeing women for as they are and not as the demi-gods we make them out to be in the field. If you see a woman in sexy bitch boots, sparkling eye shadow, and shimmering lipstick, of course all you can think of how absolutely wonderful it would be to kiss her. Now look at her and in your head take the lipstick off, as well as the rest of the make-up, and think of how she looks on laundry day. You don’t have to imagine her ugly, but just a bit plainer. That should take it down a notch.

* Lastly, be social in general with women of all shapes and sizes. The more often you talk to women outside of a pick-up session, the more natural it will be to start a conversation with any girl at a bar. Talk to fat, older and unattractive women as well.

You may always feel some jitters your first set of the night, and I know pros who feel that way after 10 years of picking up the most beautiful women. They just plow through despite the initial unpleasant feeling. And thats what a real man does: act in spite of fear, and act in spite of discomfort.

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